The Johari Window

Psychology and people fascinate me.

Our relationships with others can change us in profound ways. A child who is loved will grow up thinking she can accomplish anything. An adult can do the same.

I found unconditional love in my mid-20s, for the first time in my life.

My heart opened to her love, and I became part of something.

She was 20 years my senior with two sons and a husband. She was an aunt, sister, friend…everything in one. I was accepted and welcomed into their home where I celebrated holidays, as well as our respective joys and sorrows.

As someone who did not have a family, I got to observe what family meant. I experienced kindness and acceptance.

My transformation was all the more apparent when I ran into a former high school classmate on a busy city street.

We went to a nearby cafe and caught up from when we had last seen each other. She was amazed that I was the same person from high school, so dramatic was the change in my personality.

Compassion can alter our lives so that we may become the person we were meant to be. We accept the love we think we deserve and once we demand more for ourselves, we become the light in this world and darkness disappears.

Who am I today? How do I see myself compared with how others see me? The Johari Window reveals the answers.

In 1955, psychologists Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham created a technique in which people could better understand their relationship with themselves and others.

The Johari Window is divided into four sections including:

Open: Adjectives that both the subject and peers are aware of.

Facade: Adjectives selected only by subject but not peers.

Blind: Adjectives only selected by peers that subject is not aware of.

Unknown: Adjectives not selected by either subjects or peers.

Here is my window:


(known to self and others)

dependable, friendly, independent, kind, reflective, self-conscious

Blind Spot

(known only to others)

accepting, adaptable, bold, brave, calm, caring, cheerful, clever, complex, confident, dignified, energetic, extroverted, giving, helpful, idealistic, ingenious, intelligent, introverted, knowledgeable, loving, mature, observant, powerful, responsive, searching, self-assertive, sensible, spontaneous, sympathetic, trustworthy, warm


(known only to self)


(known to nobody)

able, happy, logical, modest, nervous, organised, patient, proud, quiet, relaxed, religious, sentimental, shy, silly, tense, wise, witty

Dominant Traits

76% of people agree that Noreen Farooqui is friendly
82% of people agree that Noreen Farooqui is independent

All Percentages

able (0%) accepting (5%) adaptable (5%) bold (17%) brave (29%) calm (5%) caring (17%) cheerful (5%) clever (5%) complex (23%) confident (23%) dependable (5%) dignified (5%) energetic (5%) extroverted (17%) friendly (76%) giving (5%) happy (0%) helpful (5%) idealistic (11%) independent (82%) ingenious (5%) intelligent (17%) introverted (5%) kind (11%) knowledgeable (5%) logical (0%) loving (5%) mature (17%) modest (0%) nervous (0%) observant (29%) organised (0%) patient (0%) powerful (17%) proud (0%) quiet (0%) reflective (5%) relaxed (0%) religious (0%) responsive (11%) searching (5%) self-assertive (23%) self-conscious (5%) sensible (5%) sentimental (0%) shy (0%) silly (0%) spontaneous (5%) sympathetic (11%) tense (0%) trustworthy (17%) warm (5%) wise (0%) witty (0%)

Created by the Interactive Johari Window on 7.2.2015, using data from 17 respondents.
You can make your own Johari Window, or view Noreen Farooqui’s full data.

2 comments on “The Johari Window

  1. The love of my mother and grandmother was an important support as I was growing up. I am surprized with how much my wife loves me. But I think I need to open up more in my life.

    1. When we open our hearts to love, we begin to live.

      You are not as closed as when I first met you. I can see you opening up in your writing, Mark.

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